Sorry you read a bunch of personal stuff into that.
However, I will stand by the emphasis/recalibration I was trying to communicate.
/If/ A man wants to shift
from: dating like a single guy who continue dating the type girl you wouldn't necessarily bring home to mom
to: to being a guy seeking "a decent girl" with long term prospects
/then/ he needs to
change his focus
change his game
change who he looks to for coaching
change who he emulates
If I came off strong in that post then it's because I've learned some (most?) younger men really need their heads cracked on these points. Everything in the popular culture and media points them the other way and teaches them differently.
Getting up any ol' girls skirt is a very different matter with a different style (and level) of play than successfully vetting, wooing, winning and keeping a "decent girl" happy for the longterm.
Yes, I'm just enough of a curmudgeonly old coot to think the latter requires from a man a higher level of maturity over a sustained time frame.
Sorry, can't soften it much more than that. No personal offense intended or directed any one, but,
a) if the shoe fits do what you will with it (pitch it back at me if you like
)b) that's what I've learned some (many? most?) of the young bucks need to hear over the years with a wee bit of experience supervising, counseling and doing weddings, etc. Doesn't make me any great authority of the subject but there's some stuff I'm pretty firmly convinced of from my experience.
Different game. Different mindset.
I guess that I'm not exactly their target demographic. 
