Situational Awareness or Paranoia?

[HTRN]

Pretty much, HTRN.

I love the girls who claim their "old fashioned"

My usual response is "really? How big is the dowry?"


HTRN

[308Mike]

skb,

Hey pal, nobody said it was going to be easy.

I had my heart broken more than once. Then I met this girl, and initially, we were oil and water. We dated on and off for seven years. Decided to live together, and if we didn't kill each other we'd marry in a year. Well, that was 29 years ago. Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it ain't. Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it ain't.

But when you find the right one (when you both find the right one) you'll both know it.

I wish no ill on those who broke my heart. I hope they are as happy as I am.

Roger that. I've been married twice before and finally found the right one and so did she (but it's her first marriage), but that just proves that people first impressions are quite frequently WRONG.

You REALLY don't start to understand someone months after bringing them on-board. In reality - you just REALLY never know!!

[AlaskaTRX]

I think it does nothing more than explain why she is 35 and has never been married, despite desperately wanting to be a wife and mother.

She will be an awful wife, and a terrible mother.

I have an x-gf like the one you dated. Eventually it got to the point where it was no matter how I answered, it was wrong. Very controlling and demeaning, and it got old. I would try to stay friends with her and keep in touch, in wishful thinking that she'd get better (she didn't). I haven't talked to her in over a year and a half. Last I heard, she decided to have a kid on her own since she couldn't [strike]find[/strike] sucker anyone into marrying her.

[Kommander]

she wanted to call me the boyfriend but didn't want to kiss me or even hold hands...

Third date rule.


HTRN

I've always wondered how ironclad the 3rd date rule is. Is it open to negotiation or interpretation? What exactly constitutes a date? Is it possible to have a partial date? Can partial dates add up to whole dates? Does going on a single date with one genetically identical twin and then another count as one or two dates? Does a date count if one of the parties does not remember it? Is some sort of evidence required in this case for the date to count? Do previous dates not count towards the total after a certain amount of time? If so what is this time? Do they degrade into partial dates first or do they stop counting completely once this time is reached?

Is the "Third Date Rule" consistent across all genders, sexualities and species? If not is there a formula that can be applied to figure out the number of dates required for a given set of sexualities, genders, and species? Is the rule altered if there is more than two people in the relationship? Is there a formula for this as well? What are the precise actions required on the third date? Are said actions determined ahead of time or improvised? If third date obligations are not met is litigation possible? In the event of third date impregnation what possible recourse may the parties take?

As you can see these are important questions that need answers and frankly I am quite bothered by the number of people who go into third dates without making sure that these, and many other questions, have been answered.

[Greg]

I have an x-gf like the one you dated. Eventually it got to the point where it was no matter how I answered, it was wrong. Very controlling and demeaning, and it got old.

Dude, that's sick. When did you meet my mother, and why didn't anyone tell me? (And don't get me started about her temper. Oh, boy. And people wonder why I say redheads are *not* desireable... because they're fucking psychotic.)

BTW you did good to leave. Some people really *are* toxic, and leave a swath of misery in their wake.

[Greg]

she wanted to call me the boyfriend but didn't want to kiss me or even hold hands...

Third date rule.


HTRN

I've always wondered how ironclad the 3rd date rule is. Is it open to negotiation or interpretation? What exactly constitutes a date? Is it possible to have a partial date? Can partial dates add up to whole dates? Does going on a single date with one genetically identical twin and then another count as one or two dates? Does a date count if one of the parties does not remember it? Is some sort of evidence required in this case for the date to count? Do previous dates not count towards the total after a certain amount of time? If so what is this time? Do they degrade into partial dates first or do they stop counting completely once this time is reached?

Is the "Third Date Rule" consistent across all genders, sexualities and species? If not is there a formula that can be applied to figure out the number of dates required for a given set of sexualities, genders, and species? Is the rule altered if there is more than two people in the relationship? Is there a formula for this as well? What are the precise actions required on the third date? Are said actions determined ahead of time or improvised? If third date obligations are not met is litigation possible? In the event of third date impregnation what possible recourse may the parties take?

As you can see these are important questions that need answers and frankly I am quite bothered by the number of people who go into third dates without making sure that these, and many other questions, have been answered.

It's a foolish rule of thumb designed to save people from the need for thinking or exercising judgement.

[workinwifdakids]

Just like any typical cop habit that gets so ingrained they do it off-duty, and even years after leaving the force because that's what's comfortable - and they don't like people walking behind them, [strike]don't put on their seat belt until AFTER the vehicle engine is running, and take off their seat belt a block before arriving at their destination[/strike].

Much of the other habits have to do with maintaining awareness, like checking reflections in windows, on cars, watching nearby shadows, not walking next to building doorways and openings, etc., etc.

Other than the seat belt thing, is it weird that I've never been a cop and always do every one of those things?

I wish no ill on those who broke my heart. I hope they are as happy as I am.

Me either. Here's a YouTube video explaining my position.

[randy]

Me either. Here's a YouTube video explaining my position.

The Piety of our membership never ceases to give me the warm fuzzies.

[Termite]

Me either. Here's a YouTube video explaining my position.

I like this one: LINKY.

[skb12172]

Me either. Here's a YouTube video explaining my position.

Ironic. The lead singer's older brother is a very good and very old friend of mine. Small world.