Situational Awareness or Paranoia?

[Dub_James]

No offense to any of the ladies here, but like calling a previous occupant of the Oval Office "Mr. President", "SWMBO" is to me an honorary title

She gets told my reasoning, whether she likes it or not is not my concern. We've not had many problems.

[Combat Controller]

I just ignore the critics. I tend to not over advertise my preparations, I don't want folks to know exactly how prepared I am at any time. Significant others are usually very appreciative as they know they are safe (as can be) with me. Most women I have dated have switched to carrying or at least owning guns if they didn't already.

I wonder about the paranoia sometimes, but I don't think being prepared is a problem. If I was always muttering about "them" and not sleeping well because I ran out of tinfoil I might start to worry.

[Termite]

A few points of information:

Not my wife. She is my girlfriend.

She grew up in a VERY sheltered and safe area. She is also the daughter of a pacifist minister.

She has a Master's degree in Counseling and wants to save/understand everyone.

She tolerates my CCW habits, but everytime I even try to show her how to hold an unloaded handgun, she shakes and practically seizes up.

After a year, this relationship is going south for several reasons. I won't dish on my additional issues with her for the sake of politeness, but one of her many issues with me is the fact that I'm

"100%, completely All Boy. It's just too much. It's overload."

Apparently, she finds me a bit barbaric and cynical in my world-view, compared to her genteel upbringing. I am a different flavor for her, as she usually goes for the emo type.

Coincidence or not, two of her ex's have come out of the closet. Not gay-bashing here, because I spent five years in musical theater, for pete's sake. Not a homophobic bone in my body. I'm simply stating a fact.

Well......shit, where to start......

OK, no starting, just this, and NO OFFENSE IS INTENDED, SKB:

It's your love life, dude, so do as you see fit. But I would break it off, unless she's willing to make massive changes, most of them mental.

......and your's has [strike]a[/strike] several personality(and psycological) issues that I wouldn't put up with.

Yeah, what he said.

Think about her and you, as though the two of you were......fish.

She's a tropical fish, in need of a special aquarium, with heated water, special food, etc. Very delicate, easily stressed.

You are a catfish. Catfish can live damn near anywhere, and eat just about anything.

Just my $.02 worth.

[Erik]

I'm kinda with Termite here. It's your life, you do as you please. Personally I learned from experience that I will not stand for having a SO ridiculing me for something I believe in, or trying to change my behaviour in other important ways, like the commitment I put into my job or my other obligations. If they dont like me for what I am, I see no point in trying to pursue anything with them. It's not like it's going to get better if you accomodate them, they'll just find other things about you to ridicule and put you down with.
But then again I'm single, so I really dont know much about relationships anyway.

[Combat Controller]

Musical theater? Well at least you're not a beauty school drop out.

[Aglifter]

The only "odd" things w. gfs have been:

A) One, who knew I carried, had bumped into it, etc went dashing across the room when she saw it.

B) A crazy whom I encountered years later, was adamantly explaining at a party that she had never handled a gun before, because of the "evil vibrations"... This was untrue.

Admittedly, I haven't had many serious relationships, but usually I haven't had any problems w. the "Darling, please: move over there/leave now/etc."

Usually, women seem pretty easy to handle - as for carry, that can be difficult, until there are young children involved.

[skb12172]

Ha! Yeah, musical theater. I played in the pit orchestra for a touring broadway show company. I made a lot of money, but being on the road for 200+ days a year got really old.

[Greg]

I'm kinda with Termite here. It's your life, you do as you please. Personally I learned from experience that I will not stand for having a SO ridiculing me for something I believe in, or trying to change my behaviour in other important ways, like the commitment I put into my job or my other obligations. If they dont like me for what I am, I see no point in trying to pursue anything with them. It's not like it's going to get better if you accomodate them, they'll just find other things about you to ridicule and put you down with.
But then again I'm single, so I really dont know much about relationships anyway.

It's good advice. Wish everyone followed it.

I'm in the long drawn-out process of losing a (I wish) lifelong friend because he married someone who basically ridicules the parts of him that made us friends in the first place, and he's letting her change him. I REALLY don't like her, she's not a good person (he's a giver- and she's a taker) and not good for him... I keep in touch, basically waiting for the divorce.

Changing yourself to try to become what some woman wants does *not* end well.

[Dub_James]

Changing yourself to try to become what some woman wants does *not* end well.

Usually for either party, although only one typically realizes it.

[Bob K]

Old saying: "When in doubt, GET OUT!!"